The Book of Proverbs, found in the Bible, offers such practical advice that I can't ignore it. Most of the information presented on this webpage are statements from the book of Proverbs.  

It's interesting that there are 31 proverbs, one for each day of the longest month of the year.  If you were to read a proverb everyday, I'm sure you would find an answer to your most perplexing problem, healing for your deepest hurt, and direction for your future. And without a doubt, it offers advice for choosing friends.

First, some facts of life concerning friendship:

The righteous are cautious in friendship – Proverbs 12:26

To me an acquaintance is not a friend. An acquaintance is a social contact, someone I meet, maybe even know for some time and like, but there is no closeness. 

Also, I have met a number of people who when they think of “friendship” they think “convenience.” But there is no closeness.  They do the things expected of a friend, but only as long as it satisfies their needs, and only those things necessary to keep the relationship working for them.

I’m sure we all realize that there are givers and there are takers, and users and abusers.

A person of many companions may come to ruin – Proverbs 18:24

Wealth brings many friends, but a poor man’s friend deserts him/her – Proverbs 19:4.

Many curry favor with a ruler, and everyone is the friend of a man who gives gifts – Proverbs 19:6.

A poor person is shunned by all his/her relatives – how much more does the poor person’s friends avoid him/her! – Proverbs 19:7

When I think of “friendship” I think of “closeness.”

A friend loves at all times – Proverbs 17:17 

Love is practical! Love is more about what you do, not so much what you feel.  Click here for a description of love.

Be careful about the people you let close to you:

Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, for you may learn his/her ways and get yourself ensnared – Proverbs 22:24.

An unfriendly man pursues selfish ends; he defies all sound judgment – Proverbs 18:1.

Many a person claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find? – Proverbs 20:6

Stay away from a foolish person, for you will not find knowledge on his/her lips – Proverbs 14:7.

A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a person who talks too much – Proverbs 20:19.

It is to a person’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel – Proverbs 20:3.

A wicked man listens to evil lips; a liar pays attention to a malicious tongue – Proverbs 17:4.

Do not envy wicked men, do not desire their company; for their hearts plot violence, and their lips talk about making trouble – Proverbs 24:1.

A fortune made by a lying tongue is a fleeting vapor and a deadly snare – Proverbs 21:6.

The mocker seeks wisdom and finds none, but knowledge comes easily to the discerning – Proverbs 14:6

Fools mock at making amends for sin, but goodwill is found among the upright – Proverbs 14:9.

A mocker resents correction; he will not consult the wise – Proverbs 15:12.

The proud and arrogant man – “Mocker” is his name; he behaves with arrogant pride – Proverbs 21:24.

He who plots evil will be known as a schemer. The schemes of folly are sin, and men detest a mocker – Proverbs 24:8,9.

He who mocks the poor shows contempt for their Maker; whoever gloats over disaster will not go unpunished – Proverbs 17:5.

The prudent person keep their knowledge to themselves, but the heart of fools blurt out folly – Proverbs 12:23.

Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue – Proverbs 17:28.

Folly delights a man who lacks judgment – Proverbs 15:19.

A greedy man brings trouble to his family – Proverbs 15:27

Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing -- Proverbs 12:18.

A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel – Proverbs 15:18.

A wise person fears the LORD and shuns evil, but a fool is hotheaded and reckless – Proverbs 14:16.

A scoundrel plots evil, and his/her speech is like a scorching fire – Proverbs 16:27

Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment – Proverbs 12:19.

A violent man entices his neighbor and leads him down a path that is not good – Proverbs 16:29.

A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends – Proverbs 16:28.

Anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God – James 4:4. 

A friend of the world someone who is given to the pursuit of pleasure with disregard to what is right and wrong. They are selfish and self-seeking.

The waywardness of the simple will kill them, and the complacency of fools will destroy them, so avoid them – Proverbs 1:32.

Mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God – have nothing to do with them – 2 Timothy 3:1-5.

The advice of the wicked is deceitful – Proverbs 12:5.

Acquitting the guilty and condemning the innocent – the LORD detests them both – Proverbs 17:15

What to look for in a person you want to be close to you:

He who loves a pure heart and whose speech is gracious will have the king as a friend – Proverbs 22:11.

A generous person will prosper; those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed – Proverbs 11:25.

Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses – Proverbs 27:6.

Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of one’s friend springs from his/her earnest counsel – Proverbs 27:9

The one who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends – Proverbs 17:9.

Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out – Proverbs 17:14.

The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit – Proverbs 15:4

The lips of the wise spread knowledge -- Proverbs 15:7

A man finds joy in giving an apt reply, how good is a timely word – Proverbs 15:23.

A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones – Proverbs 15:30.

He who listens to a life-giving rebuke will be at home among the wise – Proverbs 15:31.

The words of a man’s mouth are deep waters, but the fountain of wisdom is a bubbling brook – Proverbs 18:4.

A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense – Proverbs 19:11.

A person who has friends must show himself/herself friendly – Proverbs 18:24 (KJV).

You reap what you sow, what goes around comes around. If you want friends then be a friend. 

Do not forsake your friend and do not go to your brother’s house when disaster strikes you – better a neighbor nearby than a brother far away – Proverbs 27:10

If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! – Ecclesiastes 4:10

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