A Noble Wife

The Book of Proverbs is not part of the Old Covenant.  Yes it is recorded in the Old Testament collection of writings, but it is considered the book of wisdom. It is singled out as a manual for living a successful life. God intended this book to be relevant for every generation in every culture. 

This Book of Wisdom is full of practical advice, and it is arranged so that it fits well into any time management program.  This Book contains thirty-one collections of practical advice for life, one for each day of the longest month of the year.  If you were to read and reflect on the proverb for the day, you will quickly find your life changing for the better, and you will enjoy success at anything you do.

Proverbs thirty-one offers a description of a noble wife.  When you read it, you see it is the noble wife who is the provider of the family, not the husband.  He is the one who raises the kids, and he teaches them to recognize what their mother is doing for them, and they all praise her. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

A proverb a day keeps poverty away!

A wife of noble character who can find? – Proverbs 31:10-31

  • she is worth far more than rubies; she is priceless; the most valuable possession a man could have


Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value

  • she brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.


She is a capable businesswoman:

  • she selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.
  • she gets up while it is still dark, and her lamp does not go out at night
  • she sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for the tasks
  • she sees that her trading is profitable
  • she makes garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes
  • she is a generous employer; she provides food for her servant girls


She is a diversified investor, she also deals in real estate:

  • she considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard
  • she is a knowledgeable negotiator


She is the provider for her household:

  • she watches over the affairs of household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
  • when it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in warm clothes
  • she makes coverings for her bed;
  • she is clothed in fine linen and purple
  • she is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar; she provides food for her family


She is a God fearing woman, that is why she enjoys success:

  • she opens her arms to the needy


She knows what is important:

  • Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears  the LORD is to be praised; physically, everyone grows old and wrinkly, but a woman who fears the Lord gets more lovely year after year.
  • A person with natural beauty can be good looking on the outside but as ugly and cruel as desert sand on the inside.
  • Some years ago, I did a study on the "countenance"   because I noticed how some people's face seem to radiate beauty while others seem so hard and cold.  During that study, in Scripture, I saw that the countenance is more than the face. The face is the result of the countenance. The countenance is the product of what is going on in the heart.
  • When a person's heart is at peace with God, and God controls the thoughts and attitudes of the heart the face radiates beauty. It is soft, warm even on men. But the heart that does not allow God to be in control of the heart attitudes and desires there is no peace. 
  • The face of the ungodly is cold, strained, even mean.  It's even true on the face of Christians.  Those who mediate on the word of God day and night are at peace, those who do not make the word of God a daily priority are not at peace, they are fretful, full of doubt and fear. Their faces are troubled. 
  • Do you own study on the countenance in Scripture and see for yourself.


She respects her husband and makes sure her husband is respected:

  • her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land
  • he commends his wife in public; let her works bring her praise at the city gate; a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised!
  • she does not have expectations that he must live up to
  • she does not have needs that he must meet
  • she respects her husband, but she leads the way
  • pride does not hamper him from being her partner; he has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value
  • he is confident that she is devoted to bringing him good, not harm, all the days of her life.


She is respected and appreciated by her family:

  • her husband teaches the children to respect their mother, and to appreciate all that she is doing for them; they do not feel neglected; they do not expect her to devote her time to them
  • he holds their mother up as the model of a loving parent for their children to love wanting their daughters to follow in her footsteps
  • he does all he can to support and help his noble wife succeed at all she puts her hands to; they are a team; she lets him know exactly what he can do to be a blessing to her, and he gladly gets involved
  • her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and they all praise her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”


A noble wife and her husband are co-dependent and live in denial:

  • they submit to one another out of reverence for Christ
  • they leave their father and mother to be united as one
  • they deny their old selfish self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; daily, they are made new in the attitude of their minds; they put on a new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness


She and her husband believe that Jesus Christ is the Son of God, and they  know He is the Once For All Atoning sacrifice for the forgiveness of their sins.  They have accepted Jesus Christ as their redeemer and are devoted to Him alone; they are imitators of God as dearly loved children; they life a life of love, just as Christ loves them: 

  • they wrap themselves and their children in the love of Christ
  • they clothe themselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and they do not  think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature
  • they do not walk in the counsel of the wicked; or stand in the way of sinners; or sit in the seat of mockers.


Who do they go to for counsel? Their delight is in the Word of God, and on His word they meditate (reflect on) day and night.  Why?

  • They will be productive; whatever they do prospers.  That’s why!


The LORD watches over them and keeps them from all harm.  He teaches them to profit and directs them in the way they should go. Prosperity is the reward of those whose hearts belong to the LORD. They enjoy all that God gives them and they are generous; they are willing to share with the needy. They will be richly rewarded in this life and in the life to come.

You must realize that this in one of the family lifestyles spoken of in the Bible, and it is a preference for some families.

There are a number of couples who have chosen this family lifestyle with the wife being the provider. The woman has been able to find a high paying job that is satisfying for her.  Her husband is content with keeping the house and raising their children. She is the provider for her family.

One couple comes to mind. She had a high paying job, it was satisfying but demanding.  She and her husband agreed that it was best for their children if he didn’t work. They agreed that that he stay home and care for them. 

That is the way that family worked best.  She was happy, he was happy, the two children were happy, and they excelled at school.  As the children grew up they were well adjusted and both had a career goal set. They went to college and then entered into their chosen career fields.

There is a negative side to choosing a family lifestyle that works best for you:  If your choice does not fit with the lifestyle accepted by those around you they will try to prove your choice is wrong.

This couple tried to attend church a couple of times, but both times they experienced opposition to their family lifestyle. They were told they were out of order according to God’s Word.  It was pressed on them that he should be working and be the provider for the family, and she should be home caring for the children, or the children would not grow up well adjusted. The couple quit going to church, but they did not give up their love for God.  They trusted in His love.

At the same time family members keep trying to convince them that he should get a job and support the family.  She grew tired of arguing with her family, and he refused to discuss it with his family. Their family lifestyle was working well for them. She was happy, he was happy, the children were happy!

They had to make the decision to be strong in the face of opposition. They quit trying to belong to a Church; instead they were a church in their home and community.  They quit going to family functions because they ended in arguments. They were not going to sacrifice their happy family in order to make other people happy.

Their negotiating point was: “This is our life, we are not going to change for you or anyone else. There is no more to be said about this!”  And they walked away.  They knew they could not compromise because if they did it would cost them their happy family.

You have to be strong in your convictions and brave in the face of opposition.

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